60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

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60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

Indlægaf Pastor » fre 17. feb 2012 01:10

http://www.fastseduction.com/discussion ... 63&fid=173

You don't really need to do or say much of anything.

There is already tension between men and women. By definition that tension is sexual. It's always lurking just beneath the surface. If it was acceptable I believe people everywhere would be having care-free sex with multiple partners all the time. This tension is so dangerous it often leads to complete strangers having sex in less than 10 minutes. This tension is why some men feel the need to cover women head to toe in burkas. It's also why women know it's dangerous to put themselves in a situation where they are alone with you.

Do Less, Not More

Just by showing up, without doing anything, there is already sexual tension between you and women. It is natural and automatic.

That means:

1) There is really nothing "special" you need to do or say

2) Most women are already naturally attracted to you

Anti-Manifesto

It is my belief that it's not so much as you need to do or say "special" things to CREATE attraction as much as you just need to NOT do the small things that reduce the sexual tension that is already there. And eventually kill it forever.

- talking
- laughing
- reacting
- fidgeting
- bailing her out
- supplicating facial expressions

I consider this an anti-manifesto because most strategies usually focus on what you need to do or say. There is nothing to say. There is nothing to do.

Your whole life you have been doing things to lessen tension. You have always tried to make everybody else around you feel more comfortable at your own expense. You do this with your friends, your co-workers and especially the women you like. When things get tense or awkward you're the big clown making everyone laugh and feel comfortable. Even when girls reject you, you are more worried about their comfort level than your own. You don't want her to feel awkward. Aw!

This is bad because doing things to help women feel more comfortable with the sexual tension will be viewed by her as supplication. A woman is never going to be attracted to a man that can handle LESS sexual tension than she can.

In the end it always seems to come down to who wins the little tension battles:

Eye Contact: who is going to look away first
Introduction: who pulls their hand away first
Silence: who gives in and talks first
Resistance: who tries to diffuse the awkward moment first
Who breaks down and needs to have a talk about "what is going on" first

Lets look at a few subtle ways guys reduce the sexual tension in their interactions with women:

Opening & Silence

The reduction of tension starts right away. Most guys will use a social opener or make up an excuse to start the conversation. This may help you and her both feel comfortable, but is that really such a good idea?

Right from the beginning guys are scared of silences. In fact right after you introduce yourself you want to pause for a second and give her a chance to contribute. Instead what guys usually do is just assume it's their job to talk and entertain the whole time. It all comes off as they are trying to qualify themselves instead of the other way around. (The person talking is the person qualifying). When silence happens, as it always will, who feels the pressure to talk first.

Seductive Listening & Facial Expressions

Another way guys break sexual tension is by making supplicating facial expressions when listening. Instead of using this opportunity to bask in the natural tension of the moment guys get wide-eyed, flash goofy smiles and do lots of head nodding. And don't forget the nervous throw away lines like "oh my god that's so funny". Instead you want to keep relatively quiet and use more of a blank stare when listening. Similar to a poker players face. By listening intently but not giving her much feedback she will feel like she needs to qualify herself to you.

Escalation & Resistance

Anytime you get verbal or physical resistance there will be even more tension in the air. This is good news. Resistance is great! But if you react to the resistance verbally (ie. trying to diffuse the awkwardness by making a joke) you will kill that tension. The same thing happens if you look sad and become pouty. If you don't react to her resistance it never becomes real. It's not official. It's like it never happened. Being unreactive and keeping composed lets you be very persistent without coming across needy.

Tests/Asd

Many times it's not just you. When women become aroused they will try to reduce the tension by baiting you to break rapport. Of course you fall for this trap because you think you need to break rapport to create sexual tension. See the problem? The sexual tension is already there.

Even witty comebacks and reframes can reduce tension. As such, tests are best handled this way. Hold seductive eye contact, smile and turn your head away slowly. If her test is due to a legitimate sexual comfort issue then your response can be delivered in a sexual but serious tone.

ie.

~ We are not having sex tonight.

We're both adults. We will do whatever we are comfortable with.

Bailing Her Out

When you ask women to exchange numbers, meet up or come home with you, you should just ask her and then shut the fuck up. When women start stalling or making excuses guys always seem to bail them out by saying something. They crumble under the pressure.

Instead don't say anything and move slightly closer to her. Let the awkward moment linger. The pressure is on her. Let her feel bad for breaking rapport with you. If you can just keep your mouth shut long enough women will often come around on their own and agree to whatever you were asking for.

A good rule is to always choose the option that produces the most tension. For example if you want to set up a meet it's better to call girls vs. text them. When you text girls you let them off the hook and make it easy for them to say NO. Of course it's even better if you ask her out face to face. Anytime a woman thinks you are doing something because you fear tension (ie. using a bet as an excuse to ask her out) she is going to lose attraction for you.

Risk Creepy

As I have discussed before you want to embrace awkwardness and risk creepy. You want her breathing heavy and get her heart beating faster. That's because these symptoms mimic the signs of her being attracted. This tension is a good thing. You want it to be a bit awkward. You don't want things to feel too comfortable.

How Dare You!

Not breaking the tension can be even harder for new guys with less experience. You will be tested more. Women will look at you like how dare you be so confident. Plus, if you think of yourself as not traditionally "good looking" you will automatically think you need to DO STUFF to make women attracted to you.

Actually it's just the opposite. Guys need to do less. The things you are doing now might be getting reactions, but they are also reducing the tension. It's very subtle but when guys believe they don't have a shot with a woman, they say or do things to sabotage their chances. The funny thing is at the beginning the sexual tension and attraction was there. But because they didn't believe she was attracted, that tension made them feel awkward. So of course they were the ones to break it off first.

The key to assuming attraction is to remember that on some level there is already sexual tension between you and most women. This tension exists naturally. An automatic connection if you will. As such, your focus shouldn't be on what "special things" you need to say or do, but rather just on not breaking the natural tension and attraction that is already present.

Do less.


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Re: 60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

Indlægaf Action » ons 13. mar 2013 23:36

Meget af det giver fin mening. Jeg kan selv ikke tåle for meget tension. Har haft oplevelser med tøser hvor jeg har været den bedste til amogging, historiefortælling, center of attention, har kysset lidt med en pige og ikke gjort noget ved det hvorefter venner har taget dem. Er i tvivl om passiviteten eller deres mere direkte "Down-to-fuck" approach som jeg ved de har, har gjort forskellen.

Nogen der har erfaringer med ham her, og hans approach?
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Re: 60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

Indlægaf Pastor » fre 15. mar 2013 14:07

Mega vigtigt at ku "håndtere" tension. Ellers får man en masse sets hvor man er center of attention og alt muligt - og så ender det alligevel i ingenting.

Har brugt ovenstående nogen gange, men ikke som "samlet" metode. Jeg gjorde det at når hun var tiltrukket og isoleret, så blev jeg mere og mere tavs og fjern i blikket. Samtidigt får man så lige checket af hvor tiltrukket hun er, det ka man mærke på hvor energisk hun er for at holde samtalen igang når man selv sidder og er tavs. Så groft sagt startede jeg med at snakke en masse og blev så mere og mere tavs jo mere tiltrukket hun blev frem til snavning osv.
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Re: 60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

Indlægaf en mand » man 18. mar 2013 22:45

Jeg tror jeg kan bruge det.
Mit problem er at pigerne er tiltrukket lige indtil jeg siger noget. Så skynder de sig væk i en vis fart. Så det er bedst at tie stille.
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Re: 60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

Indlægaf Glow » tirs 19. mar 2013 11:11

Vær opmærksom på at 60 style har intet med at være passiv eller bare "tie stille".
det er en meget aktiv approach i direct game stilen med fokus på eskalering vs. social game (eg. flash game, mystery og juggler type game)
pointen er ikke at du er passiv men at du aktivt bruger ikke sproglige virkemidler sammen med det sproglige. Dvs virkemidler såsom facial expressions, pauser, fysikalitet etc. som vi også kender fra "rigtig storytelling". alt er centreret omkring at skabe sexual tension som er det primære omdrejningspunkt i eskaleringen.
Man eskalerer hurtigt/tidligt, er ret direkte med sit intent, pumper bt. er fysisk og mover hurtigt on hvis der ikke er hul igennem
Det kræver at man opnår en vis passiv værdi.
Hvis det har interesse så læs evt. "sleazy stories" for at få indblik i mindsettet da du her virkelig kommer under huden på approachen.

Det er en meget vigtig og central del af mit game. Eller var ;)
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Re: 60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

Indlægaf en mand » man 25. mar 2013 01:21

Jeg har forsøgt det i weekenden og synes at jeg kom langt videre end jeg plejer. Det er specielt godt til at fastholde emnet når der opstår pauser... hvad der tit gør.

Social game/Mystery method har været en total blindgyde for mig. Det passer slet ikke til min personlighed. Denne måde er langt bedre.
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Re: 60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

Indlægaf Kaizer » søn 4. maj 2014 14:40

Perfekt. Seksual tension er på en måde den mest ubehagelige og bedste fornemmelse i verden. Tillad det. Når I sidder helt tæt så lad samtalen dø ud, bare kig hende dybt i øjenene i nogle sekunder uden at sige noget. Hvis hun gengælder det, er det on.
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Re: 60 years of challenge - ANTI MANIFESTO

Indlægaf Chacruna » fre 9. maj 2014 01:52

Det her er måske den bedste artikel jeg nogensinde har læst om pickup! Jeg tror faktisk aldrig jeg har læst noget hvor jeg var mere enig. Det er ganske enkelt spot on.
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